I might be working with the Currie Cup, so I hope we can make a date?

Thanks for the comment! It’s good to hear from you and I appreciate what you’ve said. The stuff about mom is particular pertinent and I must agree that she does deserve an award. I feel bad thinking about how hard she worked and that she still made the effort to get me and my friends to all sorts of far away beaches.

I’m really sorry to hear that your dad passed away! I mostly remember him being in his garage working on the Jag whenever we’d get back to your place from a surf, but he was always welcoming and friendly to me and I felt welcome in your home.

I often tell stories to people about the stuff we got up to in our Nahoon days and I always get stoked remembering those days. Some of the crazy lifts we got whilst hitch-hicking and one particular night when Andrew got a face full of lipstick are some of my favourites

I hope you and Nicola are doing well in the Cape! Hopefully Lindsay and I can make it there sometime soon…

Thank you so much for sharing of yourself and your thoughts on fatherlessness here. I stumbled on your site via Fcebook and your posts have affected me profoundly, especially this one. Profoundly enough to write a comment, when I am generally apathetic about these sorts of things.

We used to be very close in high school, but we drifted apart. You will know who I am. I shudder now at my insensitivity towards you then – I had no idea how fatherlessness affected you. Perhaps you would not have admitted it then. One particular incident I remember and think about often. We were at our friend Daniel’s house and someone passed a cruel comment (as cruel as only teenage boys can be) about your father. You went quiet and retreated into a corner and started bashing your head against a wall. You then disappeared up the road and it took us a while to get you to come back. I am sure you will remember that. That was the only time I ever saw you physically affected by fatherlessness, but it must have been eating you up the whole time. For my insensitivity, I apologise.

But this is not a sad story. There are two heroes in this story. The first is your mom, who selflessly and tirelessly worked to bring you and you sister up, performing the role of both mom and dad – and a damn fine job she did. I will never forget the 4am lifts to Yellows. She deserves an award. The second hero is you. To overcome your loss, and to be a father figure to your sister as well, shows your strength of character.

And your posts make me very grateful for my own father. He died exactly a year ago. And for him I am grateful.

Thank you for making yourself vulnerable in your posts, for reaching out to other people, and to making us think.

God is awesome! Super-stoked about you and Lindz’s testimony.
To God be the Glory…

Groente
Ruan

Its a really cool piece,

And yeah-you will make a really awesome dad, one day,